Saturday, July 4, 2009


Hi! My name is BJNR and I'm a slacker!!

While sitting on my deck, I ponder the fine art of doing nothing. Just for today, I am a lazy wife and mother. (That is, if you count only 2 loads of laundry being lazy.) It really isn't a bad thing. Or is it?

Society has put this enormous pressure on me to be in a constant state of doing: work out for 4 hours, take the kids to 30 places and buy them $700 worth of toys and other junk, cook a 9 course meal, wash all the linens, etc. While I can do some of these things some of the time, there are days like today when I just need to put on the brakes!

I am enjoying this downtime for the most part, but I feel that pressure gnawing at me: take the boys to the pool, clean my office, go for a run, work on my course, and so on... These little voices are making me crazy. Have I been so programmed by the 21st century that I can't relax anymore? What a horrible thought!

The mother guilt is the worst. While I dream of replicating last year's mountain excursion, finances and time were against us. Today, while many moms and dads are taking their kids out to do things, we stayed home and let the boys be....boys! They played with the neighbors, drew pictures, read books, rode bikes, ate snacks, and just let the wind take them today.

You know what? They not only survived, they had fun! They were creating games, getting exercise and using their brains. A great time was had by all!

Leave it to children to teach me yet another valuable lesson: It's OK to do nothing 'cause you end up doing something and this anything will mean everything in the long run!

Perhaps today I should declare my independence from doing......

Now, where was I? Oh yeah. My name is BJNR and I am a slacker!